Privacy vs. Secrecy: The Individual Should Not be Lost in a Relationship
In our society the couple is usually the focus. The emphasis on “we” often leaves out what each person wants in their life. The “I” is important! Individuals in my practice often lament the loss of privacy once they are in a relationship.
Individual Therapy Will Not Solve a Couple’s Problem!
I hear it all. “I will see an individual therapist. I do not need a couples’ counselor.” Or, “My therapist says I do not need a couples’ counselor to solve our relationship issues.”
Sexual Consent is Not the Whole Story
For several years the popular and professional media have discussed the importance of mutual consent before sex occurs. This is fine, but what are we consenting to?
We Will Solve Our Problems On Our Own!
Going to a sex therapist and a couples counselor makes sense if people are having sexual and relationship issues. This would be an investment in a marriage or other intimate relationship.
Sexual Repression and Censorship of Mind and Body
Our society is becoming more repressed about sex. Censorship is more common, which affects basic sex education and sexual freedom. There are constant efforts to censor explicit sex and pornography on the Internet.
How Can I Find a Qualified Sex Therapist?
This may seem to be an easy question to answer, but it is not. A brief perusal of Google reveals that there are so-called “sexperts” who claim they can solve any sexual problem. Some are “sex coaches,” which is very problematic because coaches have little to no real training, and they cannot be licensed and no one can get insurance reimbursement from them.