Often people do not value their relationship or themselves enough to pay for sex therapy. They do not blink an eye at paying high ticket prices for concerts or sporting events, but they hesitate to pay for a qualified therapist.
The revolution encouraged sexual pleasure with consent and with honesty and responsibility. It was not detrimental to women, as is argued in a recent book by a young journalist who was not alive during or close to the revolution.
Many of my sex therapy clients expose themselves to websites and social media with some treatment of sex. Some of these sites and social media are accurate with an evidence-based and logical approach to sex and relationships, but there is often inaccurate and biased information and recommendations.
Porn is full of larger than average erect penises. Men look at porn and worry that they are not large enough. The average penis is about five and a half to six inches erect.
If you have a good memory, you vividly recall past sexual adventures. Erotic memories of hot sex with your partner and with other lovers are triggers for sex in the present.
My view is that a great lover is playful with tempting fantasies to share and act on. A delicate balance between one’s own pleasure and that of a lover is critical to make everyone thrilled.
In our society the couple is usually the focus. The emphasis on “we” often leaves out what each person wants in their life. The “I” is important! Individuals in my practice often lament the loss of privacy once they are in a relationship.
I hear it all. “I will see an individual therapist. I do not need a couples’ counselor.” Or, “My therapist says I do not need a couples’ counselor to solve our relationship issues.”
For several years the popular and professional media have discussed the importance of mutual consent before sex occurs. This is fine, but what are we consenting to?
Going to a sex therapist and a couples counselor makes sense if people are having sexual and relationship issues. This would be an investment in a marriage or other intimate relationship.
